Bad Roommate – We cannot pick our roommates or family members

I am pleased and looking forward to Restraining Order hearing this Tuesday morning. The victim prays that the abuser will be ordered to move out.

The latest domestic violence incidents during May and April 2020 are described first:

  1. “Protected person” David A. Dailey (DAD) awoke in the middle of the night – around 12:30 – with muscle cramps and coughing. He noticed that LT (Leland Terry) had turned off the house heat sometime after 10:30 p.m. on May 7, 2020. It was 52 degrees outside and the bathroom window was left open. LT persists in turning off the house heater when he goes to bed; asking no one if it is OK.
  2. LT violated the 6-foot distance rule on May 6, 7, 8, and 9th more than once every day. No apologies are ever offered.
  1. In addition to infractions of ‘social distancing’, LT does not observe other preventive measures recommended by the CDC. He rarely washes his hands, too. Never wears a mask around the house. Rarely does laundry. Does not shower every day. Sorts through the food donations from Samaritan House without washing his hands first.
  1. Typically, LT wakes up before his roommate TR, coughs, sneezes, and other unsanitary things while sitting on the side of his bed facing his roommate, rather than doing such behaviors in the bathroom.
  1. Sometime before May 7, 2020, LT cancelled two of four meals donated daily from Samaritan House. LT did so without speaking to any of his roommates. Roommate Antonio Radovan and LT are the only ones who were able to eat donated food throughout Mothers’ Day weekend.
  1. LT goads/urges on DAD into fighting him, saying “Hit me!” The specific dates were not recorded or logged. Roommate Tony Radovan has been a witness.
  1. When LT gets too close, like on May 2nd, DAD said, “Stay away from me. You stay away!”
  1. On Sunday, May 10, 2020, DAD found the Sunday newspaper he purchased for $3 in the trash.
  1. DAD is the victim of numerous passive-aggressive incidents.
  2. They both are relentless on their complaints of my coughing and sneezing – like I (DAD) have any control of where and when I cough and sneeze. They complained again on Thursday, May 14, 2020, of this and my passing of gas (farting), my burning of two saucepans dry of two saucepans during the last five (5) months.
  3. The “protected person” David Arthur Dailey, now may need more R.O.s; the latest against the spouse of Mr. Kanavao PeteloMrs. Katalina Petelo, who swung and hit him in the neck with her heavy metal walking cane on Monday, January 13, 2020 – in addition to the two (2) signed on Wednesday, December 12, 2019; incidentally, on Mr. Dailey’s 66th birthday.
  4. I (DAD) pray that the court will grant my request.
  5. LT was the last roommate added to this unlicensed care home. Tony Radovan became a resident before him. DAD has lived at 1561 since October 2017 (for over 2 years). Therefore, LT should be the first occupant to be moved out.
  6. DAD has been cleaning up after him and trying to help improve LT’s quality of life for over a year without success.
  7. The landlady operates 3-4 licensed care homes for the elderly and disabled. There are better places for LT to live. He is a burden and liability for his present roommates.
  8. I (DAD) have had several roommates since my years in college and over 25 years of marriage. LT has none of this experience and is unwilling to learn how to be a good roommate. Typically, roommates share house chores, living expenses, and help each other. This does not happen at 1561 Shoreview and the landlady is unwilling to affect changes.
  9. One could conclude that this viewing (sole diet) of fiction and violence on TV has adversely affected his sense of reality and aberrant behavior.
  10. LT typically spends his day in front of the living room TV for ten consecutive hours every day. Westerns are watched in the morning, police dramas in the afternoon, two episodes with Chuck Norris as “Texas Ranger”, and two episodes of Star Trek in the evening. Gunfire, explosions, hand-to-hand combat, and other loud disturbances are not conducive for DAD’s comedy writing.
  11. LT does little to support the household either by doing chores or contributing money for common household materials. LT routinely takes food and paper products belonging to others without asking or even saying thanks.
  12. DAD is having difficulties writing comedy at his home office. LT is more than a distraction. The latest stay-in-place state orders have made matters worse. It is tragic for DAD.
  13. LT is prone to violence and fighting. Episodes on May 2, April 22, March 13, February 28, January 13, and November 30 are some of the worst.
  1. Presentation in favor of the “Move Out Restraining Order” for Leland Terry (LT) protecting David A. Dailey (DAD) and the other three roommates as well.

LT is prone to violence and fighting. Episodes on May 2, April 22, March 13, February 28, January 13, and November 30 are some of the worst.

DAD is having difficulties writing comedy at his home office. LT is more than a distraction. The latest stay-in-place state orders have made matters worse. It is tragic for DAD.

LT does little to support the household either by doing chores or contributing money for common household materials. LT routinely takes food and paper products belonging to others without asking or even saying thanks.

LT typically spends his day in front of the living room TV for ten consecutive hours every day. Westerns are watched in the morning, police dramas in the afternoon, two episodes with Chuck Norris as “Texas Ranger”, and two episodes of Star Trek in the evening. Gunfire, explosions, hand-to-hand combat, and other loud disturbances are not conducive for DAD’s comedy writing.

One could conclude that this viewing (sole diet) of fiction and violence on TV has adversely affected his sense of reality and aberrant behavior.

I (DAD) have had several roommates since my years in college and over 25 years of marriage. LT has none of this experience and is unwilling to learn how to be a good roommate. Typically, roommates share house chores, living expenses, and help each other. This does not happen at 1561 Shoreview and the landlady is unwilling to affect changes.

The landlady operates 3-4 licensed care homes for the elderly and disabled. There are better places for LT to live. He is a burden and liability for his present roommates.

DAD has been cleaning up after him and trying to help improve LT’s quality of life for over a year without success.

LT was the last roommate added to this unlicensed care home. Tony Radovan became a resident before him. DAD has lived at 1561 since October 2017 (for over 2 years). Therefore, LT should be the first occupant to be moved out.

I (DAD) pray that the court will grant my request.

Covid19 in Nursing Homes and Meat Packing Plants (both places where I have served as a Health & Safety Consultant or Auditor) “Shut ’em Down!”

So many statistics and deaths from meat processors and nursing home residents and caretakers and first responders. This should not happened… where is OSHA!?! OSHA has not issued any citations or penalties.

 

This needs to change.Dans Flags

Human ‘Hurd Immunity’ is a Big Factor/Item for Analysis in order to Achieve POTUS Trump’s Goal of “Re-Opening USA Business, a.s.a.p.

Washington, D. C. – Good Friday, April 10, 2020 – HURD IMMUNITY MUST BE PREVALENT IN AMERICANS’ ANTIBODIES – In order to get America back to work and back to school, medical models and substantial statistics must be the basis for the “re-0pening” of business and a new-normal.

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St. Pope John Paul the Second

Even Dr. Jerome Adams, the present kiss-ass national Surgeon General, would agree with public health officials and modelists. A body of evidence, data supporting suppression of the Covid19 Virus, and newly-developed treatments and preventive measures, are essential before the Executive Branch can cheerlead efforts to restore the country and world-leading economy.

 

[to be continued]

 

Credo offers Tips for Managing Social Distancing that turns into Social Isolation

Even if you haven’t heard it enough, we’re going to repeat it again: Stay at home. Practice social distancing. Flatten the curve.

But an unintended consequence of our efforts to slow a pandemic and keep our communities healthy is a real problem: loneliness and social isolation. As state and local governments issue quarantines and stay-at-home orders, many of us are living a new normal without in-person social interaction — and that can take a toll on our mental health.

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Do not get this bug. Not as deadly as a flu-bug, but bedbugs are a bitch!

Making matters worse, researchers have found that people who don’t feel connected to others over the long term are more likely to catch colds, experience depression and live shorter lives. One study even calculated the health risks of social isolation as equivalent to smoking 15 cigarettes a day. Even before the pandemic, loneliness was already widespread, with a national survey showing that more than 70 percent of young people and millenials and half of seniors felt lonely.

So how can we combat this new — hopefully short-term — reality of social distancing and isolation? Here are some tips to improve our health and stay connected.

Make a plan to connect with friends and family

Before the pandemic, many of us probably took for granted regular social interactions with our loved ones. Connecting could be more casual, and there were fewer concerns about meeting face-to-face. But with social distancing and sheltering orders, it’s become a lot more difficult, if not impossible and even unsafe.

Yet, simply saying you’ll stay in touch and actually connecting with loved ones, whether it’s over the phone, video or some other technology, are very different — and you may forget to find time. That’s why it can be so important to make a plan to connect with your friends and family to ensure you’re staying in touch to stave off loneliness. Just like in elections, where studies have shown that making a plan to vote increases the likelihood that you’ll show up to cast your ballot, be sure to make a regular plan to connect.

A great way to make your plan stick? Send a calendar invite. Here’s how to send a calendar invitation to multiple people on your iOS and Android devices to ensure everyone stays connected.

Plan a virtual happy hour

The coronavirus pandemic has spawned a new phenomenon: the rise of the virtual happy hour. People across the country have taken to FaceTime, Zoom, Google Hangouts and other platforms as a welcome way to share a drink (non-alcoholic drinks are always welcome!) with friends while we social distance.

There are many ways to enjoy your “quarantini.” The writers at Inc. suggest these tips to host your virtual happy hour:

  • Pick your video platform (Zoom, Google, Skype, etc)
  • Set a specific time for the event
  • Encourage your friends to bring a drink of their choosing
  • Make a plan for the conversation
  • If needed, gently guide the conversation

But watch out for “Zoom bombing”

Another phenomenon — and really unfortunate unintended consequence — of our new social distancing is the “Zoom Bomb.” As millions have shifted to working and learning from home, the popular video conferencing platform Zoom has become the go-to software for remote business, school and other activities.

The increased use of the platform has become a ripe target for hackers, who have exploited vulnerabilities in the software and taken over group video chats with hateful or obscene content. The FBI recently issued a warning that malicious actors could steal personal information over Zoom.

To prevent Zoom bombing, check out this article from PC Mag and some additional safety tips from the Anti-Defamation League.

Start or join a book club

Book clubs are cropping up everywhere during the coronavirus pandemic. Although many libraries have already closed, digital books are plentiful, so if you’re an avid reader (or not-so-avid, but want to become one), starting or joining a book club with your friends and family can be a great way to stay connected.

Not sure where to begin? Bustle has you covered with 10 tips on starting a digital book club.

Just want to join an existing book club? You’re in luck. Lots of virtual book clubs — each with unique themes and book choices — are welcoming new members across the globe. Here are ten suggested book clubs from Time. Or, you can join the “Quarantine Book Club” where you can chat directly with authors over Zoom.

Look out for those most at risk during this time

Even though we personally may feel isolated or lonely right now, there are others who may need our help, too. They are people in our community who could be suffering from mental health issues or chronic illnesses, our elderly neighbors who need basic necessities like groceries or medication or someone who is low-income or facing financial difficulties.

If you can, check on them and offer your assistance. They are feeling isolated and anxious too. They may not have internet access or family members who can assist. Here are some additional tips to help communities experiencing loneliness from AARP.

Covid-19 March 2020 “Whatcha’ Gonna Do?!?” Public Health Officials Agree on 18 Thin’s, Resilience Has Been Left Off the List

This is the first of a multi-article essay about the current public health in the world. The US ranks in the top seven countries of Earth in the number of exeutions. Although President Donal J. Trump wants more deaths in the name of justice, so that the USA can rank higher that Red China in the quantity of executions.

Many Americans pray that the current viral issues do not hit close to home. Similarly with death by a firing squad, the Trump Administration is playing “Russian Roulette” with the lives of children, older Americans, disadvantaged citizens and immigrants, as well as vacationers on the Princess cruise line.

Tune in later today for the explanation why every person interested in living out their destimy should take better care of themselves and practice a number of RESILIENCE (to getting sick) techniques.

Dans Flags

Acting on what is coming out of Washington, D.C. alone is just not enough!

 

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Planning Games for an Adult Birthday Party – Revised March 2020

Yep, he is turning 67 this year and we were throwing a party Sunday he may forever remember.  Or since he is turning senile, he may not remember anything.

Using Cisco and Skype technology, we will allow anyone to the virtual party.

As with kid’s parties, the selection of games to play is very important.

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What party games would you prefer to play, ladies and gentlemen?

  1. Find the Banana
  2. Things Donald Trump would Say or Do
  3. Hide the Zucchini
  4. Card Tricks with Leland
  5. Nasty Deeds with the Birthday Boy
  6. Old Fashioned Scavenger Hunt
  7. Bury the Beaver
  8. Finding Baby Jesus
  9. Dancing with Mister Jelly
  10. Guess the Final Score
  11. Kickball — Shirts vs. Skins
  12. Oakland Raiders at Santa Clara 49ers
  13. Drinking Games
  14. Read-My-Mind
  15. Spin-the-Bottle
  16. Charades
  17. Russian Roulette – This game should be played last as a few guests, the birthday boy, or the hosts will be eliminated.

 

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Max’s Scout Services and Communications of the Americas

[ for musement only ]

 

 

 

Oh God Help US in California and the USA and on Earth

There is so much to pray for. We love many of our friends in-need but cannot ignore the messes in D.C. and the world.

Take up your cross, Take up your cross. which gives you strength, which makes your trembling spirit brave: Twill guide you to a better home and lead to victory over the grave.

Take up your cross, the Savior said…

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We beseech St. Pope John Paul II and many other saints to help The Trump Administration to “shape up or get out of the swamp” and retire in South Florida!

Oh God, Help Our World!

October 11, 2019

Today is the feast day of one of the greatest modern day popes: Saint Pope John the XXIII. It just happens that he was pope when I received my first communion and confirmation.

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Almighty and eternal God who in the Pope, Saint John XXIII gave to the whole world the shining example of a good shepherd, through his intercession, we may with joy spread abroad the fullness of Christian charity. Amen.

Nowadays, I am fortunate to have my friend Msrg. Father John Coleman nearby to offer me guidance. Father John will turn 94 years-old this coming January.

Father John at St. Francis

This is a photo of Father John at last weekend’s annual celebration of St. Francis of Assisi.

 

 

Part V in a Series: Psychoanalytic Analysis of a Major Life-Changing Event [that of my ex-lover]

May Day 2018                                                                             5/18/18

Fridays used to have greater meaning for me and my buds. Now that I am approaching old folks age, I can still remember some of the details.

About 20 years ago, my best buddy was my spouse and we were very content to order an Avanti pizza, rent a movie from a local Blockbuster shop, and hang out in the living room as a family. This had been going on decades or so until we began watching the Friday night cable TV and rented movies, the kids would go out and play with their friends, as we separately went to the study and worked on the computer and Internet. Sadly, this got old too soon.

Nevertheless, we seemed successful to take this time to recharge for the active weekend and going back to work on Mondays.

My ex-wif seemed to enjoy giggling and flirting with our divorced next door neighbor along the fence line. No foolin’, I was able to witness it by looking out the kitchen window while I toiled on washing the pots and pans… silly me, I didn’t think too much of it.

 

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Hanging Out – Shhh… Julius Caesar is Napping

About the time our family had achieved “empty nest” status interpersonal relations in the household hit an all-time low during 2005 or so. Some of us were willing to work things out and the other parts of us were ready to give up, ‘cut bait’ and go fishing in some other water hole.

I felt like I was a lucky one who had Country Corner (pictured above) across the street for me to ‘chillax’, smoke some stogies, drink free excellent coffee and have intercourse (conversations) with neighbors and make new friends. Nowadays, the kind proprietors who operated the corner store have passed away (2017-2018) and are having intercourse amongst the angels in heaven.

Excuse me, I have to walk the dog… to be continued…

 

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Max’s Scout Services and Communications of the Americas, LLC

[ for musement only ]

Dear Abby, What are We Going to Do with Our Roommate “S”

Dear Abby:

A few minutes ago, [11 a.m., 5-2-18] “R” returned to this property. He went out back and grabbed mop heads and BBQ equipment. He also demanded that I write him a check, this one for $50.

Another unsettling event [6:30 p.m. on April 21) happened while I was lying in bed, someone came into my room without knocking. The familiar man was followed by “M”.

‘M’ mentioned that he would be moving back here. ‘M’ did not say that he was moving in immediately.

Is this property becoming a care home, like “A” has on Evergreen?

When I moved here in November, this property was an unlicensed SLE with a resident House Manager. I can handle change but it is really hard for me now as I try to rehabilitate my health.

For the record,

  • On Monday I had an Lumbar-5 procedure on my left side.
  • Tuesday, I received a cortisone shot in my right shoulder.
  • Thursday, I received Orthovasc silicone injections into both knees.
  • Next Tuesday, I get a second opinion from a psychiatrist at Palo Alto Medical Foundation.
  • Ten days ago, I had skin cancer removed from my left cheek (face, not butt ;<) ).
  • This coming Tuesday, I will be returning from same-day surgery. PAMF is doing an endoscopy and I will need to rest for 24 hours afterwards. (oops, Dr. Scott found an ulcer in my small intestine).

A couple weeks ago you offered to move me to the rear BR that was occupied about 2 years by “R”. Almost every day, I have done something to try to clean up the room. It is entirely unfurnished, so I have looked into renting furniture from Cort and getting installation from Xfinity/ Comcast. I’d estimate that rental contracts with Cort and Xfinity would cost $230 and $160 each, respectively. Ms. A. H.” want to rent it furnished. Well, I am have accepted your kind offer.

As one with a recognized disability receiving SS income and trying to supplement my income by writing and publishing, these potential rental arrangements may or may not be viable.

In the meantime, I invited my acquaintances – Matthew and Marie – to take a look at this property. Both are able to take care of themselves, become great housemates, and work for the owner. [I wrote the above a couple hours ago. What follows below was written after 9:00 p.m.]

“S”, in my opinion, is not at all ideal for this household. Furthermore, I from weeks of experience know that he will be a terrible roommate or housemate for me.

The over-riding concern is not his lack of personal hygiene. Not the fact that he appears to be completely deaf and dumb (unable to speak). Poor Scott is ill and not able to take care of himself. In the past, “S” has made no effort to go see doctors or a dentist.

In fact, “S” had agreed with “R” to go to the dentist at UCSF and an appointment was made for February 20. “S” stayed here the entire day.

Dental health may be a minor health issue for “S”. I believe his mental and physical health is very poor. Who will be responsible?

I do not know of anyone who could tolerate “S’s” behavior.

Gross behavior, making noise, and being unwilling to communicate (in writing) or otherwise are additional issues.

Frankly speaking, “S” habitually cuts farts, making no effort to leave the room, go outside, or go sit on the toilet.

“K” said he would manage “S”. During the first 4 hours, I have not seen anything “Ka / Ke” has done to help “S”. Something as simple as using the shower or eating dinner has not been offered to “S”. Now, “K” is out-of-town for weeks, I assume.

Living around “R” was very difficult. Sure, he was a “bully” but he tried to be considerate and urge others to contribute to maintaining the house. With “S”, I have seen little effort put forth on his part to maintain the physical conditions of the house during the weeks we roomed together during January, February, and March.

Note that “S” left suddenly on his own. Packing up and leaving about 9:00 p.m. Why? I believe, to avoid communicating with others and refusing to compromise and more successfully assimilate himself into a shared living situation. I ask for your help in any way that you can. Thank you.

His judgments and behavior are troublesome for the rest of us.

Other annoying and nuisance things that occur daily is “S” walking around half-naked, not washing his hands before preparing food in the kitchen, exposing others to his dermatitis problems with his feet and hands, peeing while the bathroom door is open, slamming doors, sliding the noisy back door during sleeping/quiet hours (10 pm to 6 am), not flushing the toilet, leaving water running in the shower and bathroom sink, laughing ‘diabolically’, putting soiled dishes and silverware back into the kitchen cabinet, rambling verbally on-and-on, and doing things without asking others if it is the right time to do whatever.

Lately, I spend practically an hour a day cleaning up things “S” should be doing in the kitchen, bathroom, dining room, back of the house patio, and the front yard and patio. For instance, I have to rewash dishes, pans, and silverware that “S” uses and attempts to wash and dry. His smoking behavior is not friendly particularly for the family with children that live in 1559 Shoreview. Moore is out of town and cannot intervene. “K” is out of the country and cannot provide care for Scott’s needs.

His diet is questionable given his overweight. “S” mostly consumes white bread, American cheese sandwiches, toast with butter, and sometimes eats the meals delivered Monday through Friday from Samaritan House’s Mobil~Wheels program. A couple days ago, “S” threw five salads from Draeger’s (worth about $11 to $15 each) in the garbage, without consulting with anyone.

Last night, “S” was up during dark hours smoking in the back seating area. I awoke and found a mess of smoking materials in the front patio smoking area.

He (“S”) utters sounds [sounding like a dog, goose, or goul) while sitting by himself that are both intelligible and scare some passersby along Shoreview Avenue. His attempts to say high and be friendly are largely misunderstood and affects other residents’ interrelations with neighbors and strangers walking by.

In summary, he needs better medical care. I have lived with schizophrenics before and his overt behaviors are symptoms that his prescription medicines are NOT effective. Any future delays in seeking proper medical care only make matters worse.

“M” has been a ‘God’s send’ around here. He does not deserve to assume responsibilities for Scott’s physical, spiritual, and mental health.

As a house manager, “M” has much to be responsible for already. Is this now a ‘care home’?

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I hate to think that either “M” or “K” are educated, qualified, and licensed to supervise occupant’s health and personal needs.

It is not fair to them to have “S’s” issues dumped on them.

Today, I learned that a local restaurant gave “S” a job washing dishes. Yet at home he doesn’t. Such is irony. Can we discuss what needs to be purchased for our home? Not likely. But I tried on Sunday.

How can “S” keep a job, keep a place to live, and become healthy? These ought not be our responsibility nor our worries.

Sincerely,

David A. Dailey, Occupant in Room B, 1561 Shoreview, San Mateo, DADailey@gmail.com;