Dear Abby, What are We Going to Do with Our Roommate “S”

Dear Abby:

A few minutes ago, [11 a.m., 5-2-18] “R” returned to this property. He went out back and grabbed mop heads and BBQ equipment. He also demanded that I write him a check, this one for $50.

Another unsettling event [6:30 p.m. on April 21) happened while I was lying in bed, someone came into my room without knocking. The familiar man was followed by “M”.

‘M’ mentioned that he would be moving back here. ‘M’ did not say that he was moving in immediately.

Is this property becoming a care home, like “A” has on Evergreen?

When I moved here in November, this property was an unlicensed SLE with a resident House Manager. I can handle change but it is really hard for me now as I try to rehabilitate my health.

For the record,

  • On Monday I had an Lumbar-5 procedure on my left side.
  • Tuesday, I received a cortisone shot in my right shoulder.
  • Thursday, I received Orthovasc silicone injections into both knees.
  • Next Tuesday, I get a second opinion from a psychiatrist at Palo Alto Medical Foundation.
  • Ten days ago, I had skin cancer removed from my left cheek (face, not butt ;<) ).
  • This coming Tuesday, I will be returning from same-day surgery. PAMF is doing an endoscopy and I will need to rest for 24 hours afterwards. (oops, Dr. Scott found an ulcer in my small intestine).

A couple weeks ago you offered to move me to the rear BR that was occupied about 2 years by “R”. Almost every day, I have done something to try to clean up the room. It is entirely unfurnished, so I have looked into renting furniture from Cort and getting installation from Xfinity/ Comcast. I’d estimate that rental contracts with Cort and Xfinity would cost $230 and $160 each, respectively. Ms. A. H.” want to rent it furnished. Well, I am have accepted your kind offer.

As one with a recognized disability receiving SS income and trying to supplement my income by writing and publishing, these potential rental arrangements may or may not be viable.

In the meantime, I invited my acquaintances – Matthew and Marie – to take a look at this property. Both are able to take care of themselves, become great housemates, and work for the owner. [I wrote the above a couple hours ago. What follows below was written after 9:00 p.m.]

“S”, in my opinion, is not at all ideal for this household. Furthermore, I from weeks of experience know that he will be a terrible roommate or housemate for me.

The over-riding concern is not his lack of personal hygiene. Not the fact that he appears to be completely deaf and dumb (unable to speak). Poor Scott is ill and not able to take care of himself. In the past, “S” has made no effort to go see doctors or a dentist.

In fact, “S” had agreed with “R” to go to the dentist at UCSF and an appointment was made for February 20. “S” stayed here the entire day.

Dental health may be a minor health issue for “S”. I believe his mental and physical health is very poor. Who will be responsible?

I do not know of anyone who could tolerate “S’s” behavior.

Gross behavior, making noise, and being unwilling to communicate (in writing) or otherwise are additional issues.

Frankly speaking, “S” habitually cuts farts, making no effort to leave the room, go outside, or go sit on the toilet.

“K” said he would manage “S”. During the first 4 hours, I have not seen anything “Ka / Ke” has done to help “S”. Something as simple as using the shower or eating dinner has not been offered to “S”. Now, “K” is out-of-town for weeks, I assume.

Living around “R” was very difficult. Sure, he was a “bully” but he tried to be considerate and urge others to contribute to maintaining the house. With “S”, I have seen little effort put forth on his part to maintain the physical conditions of the house during the weeks we roomed together during January, February, and March.

Note that “S” left suddenly on his own. Packing up and leaving about 9:00 p.m. Why? I believe, to avoid communicating with others and refusing to compromise and more successfully assimilate himself into a shared living situation. I ask for your help in any way that you can. Thank you.

His judgments and behavior are troublesome for the rest of us.

Other annoying and nuisance things that occur daily is “S” walking around half-naked, not washing his hands before preparing food in the kitchen, exposing others to his dermatitis problems with his feet and hands, peeing while the bathroom door is open, slamming doors, sliding the noisy back door during sleeping/quiet hours (10 pm to 6 am), not flushing the toilet, leaving water running in the shower and bathroom sink, laughing ‘diabolically’, putting soiled dishes and silverware back into the kitchen cabinet, rambling verbally on-and-on, and doing things without asking others if it is the right time to do whatever.

Lately, I spend practically an hour a day cleaning up things “S” should be doing in the kitchen, bathroom, dining room, back of the house patio, and the front yard and patio. For instance, I have to rewash dishes, pans, and silverware that “S” uses and attempts to wash and dry. His smoking behavior is not friendly particularly for the family with children that live in 1559 Shoreview. Moore is out of town and cannot intervene. “K” is out of the country and cannot provide care for Scott’s needs.

His diet is questionable given his overweight. “S” mostly consumes white bread, American cheese sandwiches, toast with butter, and sometimes eats the meals delivered Monday through Friday from Samaritan House’s Mobil~Wheels program. A couple days ago, “S” threw five salads from Draeger’s (worth about $11 to $15 each) in the garbage, without consulting with anyone.

Last night, “S” was up during dark hours smoking in the back seating area. I awoke and found a mess of smoking materials in the front patio smoking area.

He (“S”) utters sounds [sounding like a dog, goose, or goul) while sitting by himself that are both intelligible and scare some passersby along Shoreview Avenue. His attempts to say high and be friendly are largely misunderstood and affects other residents’ interrelations with neighbors and strangers walking by.

In summary, he needs better medical care. I have lived with schizophrenics before and his overt behaviors are symptoms that his prescription medicines are NOT effective. Any future delays in seeking proper medical care only make matters worse.

“M” has been a ‘God’s send’ around here. He does not deserve to assume responsibilities for Scott’s physical, spiritual, and mental health.

As a house manager, “M” has much to be responsible for already. Is this now a ‘care home’?

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I hate to think that either “M” or “K” are educated, qualified, and licensed to supervise occupant’s health and personal needs.

It is not fair to them to have “S’s” issues dumped on them.

Today, I learned that a local restaurant gave “S” a job washing dishes. Yet at home he doesn’t. Such is irony. Can we discuss what needs to be purchased for our home? Not likely. But I tried on Sunday.

How can “S” keep a job, keep a place to live, and become healthy? These ought not be our responsibility nor our worries.

Sincerely,

David A. Dailey, Occupant in Room B, 1561 Shoreview, San Mateo, DADailey@gmail.com;

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Part II of a Multi-Party Psychoanalytic Review of Significant Life-Changing Event [of an ex-lover]

After an afternoon’s rest, it is simpler to reflect on the past, ‘what ifs’, contemporary music, doing a bit of cookin’, and achieving a better sense of PEACE. I credit Pastor Father Fabio Medina (St. Anthony’s Menlo Park) for reminding me recently that a person needs to first be AT PEACE before one can understand The Word and the world.

If we are successful at PEACE and understanding, we can better explain what it ALL means: Life, the Gospels, and our pathway in the future. I wish youth could do this and furthermore find their ‘calling’ in life utilizing the talents, time, and treasure they have to offer mankind and their immediate community.

Some Americans, I have to accept, are stout Democrats. But why would a stout Hillary Clinton supporter marry a Republican that doesn’t believe in the Father, Son, and Holy Ghost?!? I suppose, only God knows.

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Where are the eyes and ears of Hillary supporters?

In my latest ‘epistle’ I addressed the issues I should have regarding an ex-wif finding another mate and better ‘put myself in her place’ in order to settle matters between the two of us and a third person, namely our daughter.

Here is an excerpt of my earlier writing:

Naw, she (the EX) could not understand how elated I was that she would be able to retire next week and not have to work in a preschool daycare center until she aged to 80 or so. My vows specifically stated ‘until death do y’all part’ and I had still felt responsibility for her health insurance premiums, mortgage payments, property taxes, raising our daughter, and the re-sale value on a $2 to $3,000,000.00 house in beautiful County of San Mateo.

Our children are the very most people in our lives; well, this is true 80% of the time.

Excuse me, I need to go check on the Lasagne in the oven and go take a cat nap.

 

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Sheriff Department Accused of Police Brutality of Senior, Disabled Man Inside Redwood City Jail

White, elderly, disabled man beaten by Sheriffs in San Mateo (CA)

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SUPERIOR COURT OF THE STATE OF CALIFORNIA FOR THE COUNTY OF SAN MATEO

DAVID A. DAILEY

Plaintiff,

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COUNTY OF SAN MATEO

OFFICE OF THE SHERIFF

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COUNTY HEALTH SYSTEM

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Case No.: 1 8   C I V  0 1 7 3 3

 

COMPLAINT

HEARING DATE:  August 9, 2018

 

TIME:   9:00 a.m.

 

DEPT:   21

Judge:   To be determined

 

CAUSE OF ACTION(S)

In violation of California Penal Code Section 15385, County jailhouse officers brutally used excessive force injuring the Plaintiff.

Pursuant to California Government Code Sections 8201 and 8216, the County Sheriff and County Health System unlawfully detained, mistreated, and handled the Plaintiff.

The Plaintiff alleges Defendants severely injured and failed to provide prudent medical attention.

Proper medical attention was not offered at both the jailhouse and…

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Keystone Cops” of the City of San Mateo and Miss “Man-Hater” at Heidi’s Pies Act Inappropriately In-Public

Dateline: El Camino Real near California State Road 92

Sunday Night and Monday Pre-Dawn Hours / October 2 and 3, 2016

 

WAITRESS-HEIDI’S PIES SHOP MANAGER SCREWS WITH TRAVELING HUMORIST AND SPORTSWRITER BY HITTING THE OVERREACTION BUTTON THAT ELICITS BAD BEHAVIOR BY THE LOCAL COPS –

Not one, not two, not three, but six different City of San Mateo Police Department coppers verbally assault, lie, and scare disabled senior citizen …

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Oh Help Us God!

Not one but two (2) times during the darkest hours of the day… More news at 5, 6, 10, and 11 o’clock. SMPD Sergeant ‘Slick Hair’ threatens innocent man by mentioning the thought of being dragged into the County of San Mateo ‘Medical Center’s’ terribly managed Psych lock-down facility!!!

 

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Letter to the Appointed City Manager of “Deadwood City, Northern California” – Latino Unlicensed and Impolite Security Gooks Stationed at the Fair Oaks Senior Community Center [an alleged coordinating agency for services for the poor, elderly, disabled, immigrants, etc.]

Dear Madam City Manager:

I was threatened by the presence of Mr. Andrade, one of the three suspect City employees at Fair Oaks.

The two psuedo-security gooks/geeks/ Latinos/ whatever, too.

You are on-report Madam Manager.

Your lack of action weeks ago has been noted, as has your “no comment” from yesterday – prior to the report to the County Sheriffs who responded to my phone call from Fair Oaks, owned and managed by your city since ____.

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p.s. Your city motto cannot be substantiated by current research:

“Climate best by government test” slogan is based on one study performed during the 1900s.

What a waste of tax payers dollars refurbishing those two signs…

Why don’t you do your job or move on to another wild west town…?

No Progress in Homelessness Issues in Over 4.5 years within the County of San Mateo, Northern California

This is embarrassing: The following article was written and letters sent to officials of all these local governments over four (4) years ago.

Nothing has improved!

February 24, 2012

Early Morning PST

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At the Sequoia Station I met a new friend. Like me last year, Mac E., is now homeless…… been so for seven years now. The socioeconomic conditions are such that unless you are under 30 and either have connections with hiring managers or have skills in the high-tech and biotechnology area, you can’t get a job.

Another example is Buck D. He has been unemployed for 38 months “homeless” for 14 of those months, and had only one opportunity to interview for a well-paying position. Granted it was only a telephone screening but none the less, it was an interview.

Finding resources to self-help their plight and future does not come easy. The simple stuff like eating, sleeping, showering, having weather-appropriate clothing, transportation, recreation activities just ain’t easy.

One saving grace are the county case workers, medical clinics, and a limited number of shelters, and churches willing to prepare one meal a day for the disadvantaged. St. Anthony’s of Redwood City, Glide Memorial Church of San Francisco, are two good examples of Christian treatment of the ill, seniors, veterans, unemployed, poor children, homeless, etc.

In Menlo Park, one active group formed about a decade ago – Hearts for the Homeless with a group of concerned citizens from Menlo Park Presbyterian Church. They have allied their efforts with InnVision of Palo Alto.

It is generally recognized that Santa Clara County (San Jose area) has far better resources for housing than San Mateo County (Redwood City), San Francisco, and Alameda County (Oakland area.)

In an effort to affect positive change, the following letter was written to the “movers and shakers” that are employed to help families and single folks find shelter, good food, clothing, and other basic resources.

 

NOTE: Only one of 15 organizations in San Mateo County [California] responded to / answered the following letter. This included two elected politicians.  Sad, sad, sad . . .

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December 28, 2011

Housing Agencies for the Disabled and Elderly

County of San Mateo, California

Re: 2nd Introductory Letter & Survey

Dear Housing Coordinators:

Last December, I wrote to a number of municipal housing coordinators and received only one response.

Again I ask for your prompt action in this regional housing matter.

In the future, I would like to hear of more about housing opportunities for the disabled, seniors, and veterans  in-need. Our regional unemployment is in double digits and the unemployment rate for disabled Americans exceeds 70%, therefore I believe a focus is needed to both help these people find both housing and jobs.

I am one of the lucky peninsula disadvantaged citizens with a place to live and the where-with-all to continue looking for a work assignment allowing an accommodation.

You have been identified as one of the more effective city/town housing assistance offices. I trust you not only know the growing needs but also understand how to make things happen.

Would you please send your ideas to: P. O. Box 620928, Woodside, California?  One idea is to set up a charitable trust fund. Another idea is to ask wealthy faith/church-based organizations to pledge financial assistance.

The Board of Supervisors Office has informed me that the county has a ten-year plan to address affordable housing. We cannot wait until 2020.

Yours sincerely,

David A. Dailey

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Distribution:

Burlingame – Meg Monroe

Millbrae – Ralph Perry

Redwood City – Debbi Jones-Thomas

San Bruno – Mark Sullivan

San Carlos – Mark Sawicki

San Mateo – Sandy Council

South San Francisco – Norma Fragoso

Mid-Pen Housing Coalition – Matt Franklin

SAMCEDA – Rosanne Foust

Redwood City 2020 – Patricia Brown

MHA of San Mateo County – Melissa Platte

Serve The Peninsula – John Luff

Sustainable San Mateo County – Kari Binley

Board of Supervisors – Don Horsley

California Assembly – Jerry Hill

NOTE: ONLY ONE AGENCY RESPONDED

TO THIS LETTER!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Reno is the Worst Place for Homeless Human Beings

I made a 3 minute appeal to the Reno City Council today…
things need to be done to improve the treatment of homeless folk.

Met with the director of Catholic Charities counseling and was so frustrated that I asked her to consider to resign… It was at least the sixth time that I went in for help – only once did they and it amounted to assistance on a $7 prescription of anti-biotics.

So, if an organization is masquerading as a very Christian one helping the poor, needy, hungry, children’s, etc… They have taken the good name of St. Vincent in-vain.

Why don’t they just shut their doors… if they don’t muster up.

“St. Vincent Dining Room of Reno” quit serving unnutritious food at your own convenience! Help the homeless! And not just the unborn child.

p.s. this was written in 2015

A letter was written to the Chief Executive Officer of the Catholic Charities of Northern Nevada. No response has been received. No improvements noted in any of the services they are involved with… Happy Holy Wednesday. Go figure…biden2016