Dear Abby, What are We Going to Do with Our Roommate “S”

Dear Abby:

A few minutes ago, [11 a.m., 5-2-18] “R” returned to this property. He went out back and grabbed mop heads and BBQ equipment. He also demanded that I write him a check, this one for $50.

Another unsettling event [6:30 p.m. on April 21) happened while I was lying in bed, someone came into my room without knocking. The familiar man was followed by “M”.

‘M’ mentioned that he would be moving back here. ‘M’ did not say that he was moving in immediately.

Is this property becoming a care home, like “A” has on Evergreen?

When I moved here in November, this property was an unlicensed SLE with a resident House Manager. I can handle change but it is really hard for me now as I try to rehabilitate my health.

For the record,

  • On Monday I had an Lumbar-5 procedure on my left side.
  • Tuesday, I received a cortisone shot in my right shoulder.
  • Thursday, I received Orthovasc silicone injections into both knees.
  • Next Tuesday, I get a second opinion from a psychiatrist at Palo Alto Medical Foundation.
  • Ten days ago, I had skin cancer removed from my left cheek (face, not butt ;<) ).
  • This coming Tuesday, I will be returning from same-day surgery. PAMF is doing an endoscopy and I will need to rest for 24 hours afterwards. (oops, Dr. Scott found an ulcer in my small intestine).

A couple weeks ago you offered to move me to the rear BR that was occupied about 2 years by “R”. Almost every day, I have done something to try to clean up the room. It is entirely unfurnished, so I have looked into renting furniture from Cort and getting installation from Xfinity/ Comcast. I’d estimate that rental contracts with Cort and Xfinity would cost $230 and $160 each, respectively. Ms. A. H.” want to rent it furnished. Well, I am have accepted your kind offer.

As one with a recognized disability receiving SS income and trying to supplement my income by writing and publishing, these potential rental arrangements may or may not be viable.

In the meantime, I invited my acquaintances – Matthew and Marie – to take a look at this property. Both are able to take care of themselves, become great housemates, and work for the owner. [I wrote the above a couple hours ago. What follows below was written after 9:00 p.m.]

“S”, in my opinion, is not at all ideal for this household. Furthermore, I from weeks of experience know that he will be a terrible roommate or housemate for me.

The over-riding concern is not his lack of personal hygiene. Not the fact that he appears to be completely deaf and dumb (unable to speak). Poor Scott is ill and not able to take care of himself. In the past, “S” has made no effort to go see doctors or a dentist.

In fact, “S” had agreed with “R” to go to the dentist at UCSF and an appointment was made for February 20. “S” stayed here the entire day.

Dental health may be a minor health issue for “S”. I believe his mental and physical health is very poor. Who will be responsible?

I do not know of anyone who could tolerate “S’s” behavior.

Gross behavior, making noise, and being unwilling to communicate (in writing) or otherwise are additional issues.

Frankly speaking, “S” habitually cuts farts, making no effort to leave the room, go outside, or go sit on the toilet.

“K” said he would manage “S”. During the first 4 hours, I have not seen anything “Ka / Ke” has done to help “S”. Something as simple as using the shower or eating dinner has not been offered to “S”. Now, “K” is out-of-town for weeks, I assume.

Living around “R” was very difficult. Sure, he was a “bully” but he tried to be considerate and urge others to contribute to maintaining the house. With “S”, I have seen little effort put forth on his part to maintain the physical conditions of the house during the weeks we roomed together during January, February, and March.

Note that “S” left suddenly on his own. Packing up and leaving about 9:00 p.m. Why? I believe, to avoid communicating with others and refusing to compromise and more successfully assimilate himself into a shared living situation. I ask for your help in any way that you can. Thank you.

His judgments and behavior are troublesome for the rest of us.

Other annoying and nuisance things that occur daily is “S” walking around half-naked, not washing his hands before preparing food in the kitchen, exposing others to his dermatitis problems with his feet and hands, peeing while the bathroom door is open, slamming doors, sliding the noisy back door during sleeping/quiet hours (10 pm to 6 am), not flushing the toilet, leaving water running in the shower and bathroom sink, laughing ‘diabolically’, putting soiled dishes and silverware back into the kitchen cabinet, rambling verbally on-and-on, and doing things without asking others if it is the right time to do whatever.

Lately, I spend practically an hour a day cleaning up things “S” should be doing in the kitchen, bathroom, dining room, back of the house patio, and the front yard and patio. For instance, I have to rewash dishes, pans, and silverware that “S” uses and attempts to wash and dry. His smoking behavior is not friendly particularly for the family with children that live in 1559 Shoreview. Moore is out of town and cannot intervene. “K” is out of the country and cannot provide care for Scott’s needs.

His diet is questionable given his overweight. “S” mostly consumes white bread, American cheese sandwiches, toast with butter, and sometimes eats the meals delivered Monday through Friday from Samaritan House’s Mobil~Wheels program. A couple days ago, “S” threw five salads from Draeger’s (worth about $11 to $15 each) in the garbage, without consulting with anyone.

Last night, “S” was up during dark hours smoking in the back seating area. I awoke and found a mess of smoking materials in the front patio smoking area.

He (“S”) utters sounds [sounding like a dog, goose, or goul) while sitting by himself that are both intelligible and scare some passersby along Shoreview Avenue. His attempts to say high and be friendly are largely misunderstood and affects other residents’ interrelations with neighbors and strangers walking by.

In summary, he needs better medical care. I have lived with schizophrenics before and his overt behaviors are symptoms that his prescription medicines are NOT effective. Any future delays in seeking proper medical care only make matters worse.

“M” has been a ‘God’s send’ around here. He does not deserve to assume responsibilities for Scott’s physical, spiritual, and mental health.

As a house manager, “M” has much to be responsible for already. Is this now a ‘care home’?

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I hate to think that either “M” or “K” are educated, qualified, and licensed to supervise occupant’s health and personal needs.

It is not fair to them to have “S’s” issues dumped on them.

Today, I learned that a local restaurant gave “S” a job washing dishes. Yet at home he doesn’t. Such is irony. Can we discuss what needs to be purchased for our home? Not likely. But I tried on Sunday.

How can “S” keep a job, keep a place to live, and become healthy? These ought not be our responsibility nor our worries.

Sincerely,

David A. Dailey, Occupant in Room B, 1561 Shoreview, San Mateo, DADailey@gmail.com;

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Grandma’s Chicken Divan *

Save yourself a trip from the kitchen and use ingredients you’ve on-hand.

Or if you must, make a grocery list (send Ol’Lard Butt out to get exercise).

Make A List:

  • Broccoli
  • Chicken Breasts
  • Cream of Chicken Soup
  • One cup of white wine
  • Lemon
  • Sharp yellow or white cheddar cheese or provolone
  • Corn flakes browned in butter

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Whenever you are ready, your hands are clean, and the chicken is well rinsed, begin. Slice the chicken breasts, add a couple cloves of garlic, and stuff the cavity of the chicken. Use cut up/diced broccoli and add with your favorite herbs and cheese. I am not sure how Grandma used the corn flakes, but I would add them crushed on top.

Preheat oven to 300 degrees and bake for 90-100 minutes.

You may want to add more cheese later in the baking process.

You might also want to think about baking it at 325 and have it done within an hour in the oven.

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Wine is as good as life to a man if it be drunk moderately; what is life then to a man that is without wine? For it was made to make men glad.

Wine measurably drank, and in season, bringeth gladness of the heart and cheerfulness of the mind.  ~ Ecclesiastics, 31:27-28

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  • Recipe from Confessions of An Oenophile – An American Family Cookbook

Northern Silicon Valley Citizens are Awake, Aware, and Largely Responsible Christ-Like People — Time to Occupy the San Francisco Peninsula

November 2015 through February 2016   PRESS INFO FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE

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OCCUPY COUNTY OF SAN MATEO [NORTHERN CALIFORNIA]

 (The Dailey Sun-Chronicles ~ Veterans Day 2015 Edition) –

Charlie Chan, Buck D.D., and Jimmy Crackcorn announced the beginning of the Occupy ____ movement throughout the San Francisco Peninsula today. In keeping with the neighborhood civic acumen(s), business climate and unchanging weather conditions, and current Facebook and Tesla social and corporate management theories, occupy camps will be moved weekly from one announced and government-permitted location to another. Some Occupy San Francisco Peninsula camps change daily.

As the Sam Trans’ Route 295/296 bus arrived into Menlo Park (population 131 homeless, 3,880 canines, and no horses) at noon Pacific Standard Time Wednesday the 5th of the eleventh month, an organizer praised the contributions of 007 by providing professional transportation services to a community severely lacking good public transportation systems and safe female drivers of oversized sport utility motor vehicles (SUVs).

Editors’ Notes: “Buck” is a Certified Safety Professional (CSP) who in 1986 purchased his 1st home in the 3200 block of Alameda de las Pulgas [unincorporated  Menlo Park, County of San Mateo California]. Although he is remains a public person he has largely been hiding as a “houseless American” since January 2007.  In 1992 “Buck” lost an U.S. congressional race [to the same congressperson Anna Eshoo who is still employed in D. C. ~ giving away high-compensation with health insurance and other employee benefits ~ American jobs locally via visas and green-cards] and in 1994 he tried to get more votes than popular Stanford Law Professor Tom Campbell in order to work in Sacramento to become a California State Senator for human rights and services.

West Menlo Park Mayor Dailey spent over seven years at Lockheed working during the Cold War about seven years after graduation from Indiana University at Bloomington (A.B. ’76, M.S. ’78). Buck was illegally terminated last September by the United Parcel Service (UPS). After over 50 months of service between 2003 and 2008 as a California Department of Public Health and Health Services Health Facilities Evaluator, he was illegally terminated and narrowly lost his judicial appeal versus current State of California Attorney General Camilla Harris, who now insists on running for one of two democratic seats in the United States Senate!

Buck is a publisher, author of Lessons Learned From Dogs [copyright 2011] and Confessions of An Oenophile ~ An American Family Cookbook of Comfort Food [copyright 2008], comedian and humorist, sports reporter and wagering handicapper, business administrator and environmental, health, security, and safety educator, and household engineer. Deer, California is the title of his first book about homelessness written from 2005 to 2014.

Lighthouse

  • Take Responsibility if Accused of Vehicular Manslaughter.
  • Be Reasonable with Demands on All Government and Quasi-Government Agencies.
  • Let the County government work on more important issues that biking.
  • Teach Youth about the “Buddy System”.
  • Let the California Highway Patrol (CHP) focus on higher priorities than soccer-mom driving.
  • Demand that local (i.e. City of Menlo Park) officials solve their internal problems.
  • Boycott free newspapers and their advertisers that do not practice ‘responsible journalism.’ Therefore, protect valid sources, no fear-mongering, reduce sensationalism, write truthfully and factually, and promote good news. Just because the Internet and free rags are not costly, that does not make what is printed factual, accurate, or always believable. Sometimes, you get what you pay for . . . nothing.
  • Do not expect a public agency to solve woman problems, particularly if they are personal things.
  • Restore Sam Trans and improved Cal-Train train and bus services to your immediate community.
  • Plan to improve education, both public schools and private entities: A) At Home, B) In School, and C) During Every After-School Activity [i.e. Menlo Park Lyceum].
  • Find better means of energy consumption and public transportation. Sam Trans / Redi-Wheels Paratransit / Cal-Train are among the worst-managed quasi-governmental agencies in the USA.
  • Help the Bay Area Air Quality Management Board, the clean water agencies, and local zoning commissions revise improved public policies.
  • Blame Congressperson Anna Eshoo for what she has done in the United States Congress, as a hospital board member, and County of San Mateo Supervisor. If you re-elect her, you are now responsible and should be held accountable. FYI: In 1991, Eshoo was asked to put street lighting and traffic lights along Alameda de las Pulgas. She did nothing. Many were injured and some animals died a gruesome end.
  • Support elected officials like the current efforts of California Senator Jerry Hill who has represented the people of the County of San Mateo very well.
  • Work with the office of United States Senator Dianne Feinstein before, during, and after 2016 congressional hearings discussing the dreaded houseless populations in Northern California.
  • Improve health care; particularly the County of San Mateo Health System’s policies and daily protocols. People are needlessly suffering because health care professionals are following poorly-conceived and implemented procedures. Ask that the current county director resign and be quickly replaced.
  • Take issues in prayer to God, first. Then bother your priest, minister, social worker, and friends.
  • Utilize ‘The Brothers’ for issue resolution and decrease stressors on the court systems.
  • Elect not an ass but D. A. D. for United States Senator from Northern California (Green Party turned Dem.) in 2016 and support his writing at the 2016 Rio Summer Olympics.
  • That Christians will behave as Christians, more will appreciate learning about the life of Jesus Christ, Son of God and the Blessed Virgin Mary, and many will successfully evangelize making more real.
  • Make housing more affordable, safer, and livable!
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    Wipe That Smile (Sorbet, Chocolate, Ital. Ice, Yogurt) Off Your Face ~ Bruster’s Real Ice Cream Shops

    It figures that on their napkins it is printed, “Wipe that smile off your face.”

    During the last two weeks, I have visited the Bloomington [Southern Indiana] eastside shop eight times. Once I picked up an ice cream, or was it a peach-raspberry yogurt, pie and shared it over across State Road 46 with the gang at Chapman’s Restaurant.

    The pie was so popular that I only took 1/8 of it home to the freezer.

    We must have driven by Bruster’s six dozen times driving to and from home around Monroe Lake and work/college in B-ton. Thank God I wised up.

    No regrets.

    I could go on-and-on.

    Be surprised when they offer your dog a free “doggie dip” or award you for stopping when it is snowing or raining between 11 a.m. and 11 p.m.

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    • David A D.
    • Max’s Scout Services & Communications, LLC; Bloomington, IN
    Former I.U. President and NCAA Commissioner Brand Would Probably Recommend Bruster’s for Both Rhodes Scholars and Student Athletes
    5.0 star rating

    7/15/2012 First to Review

    Greatest Regional Chain for Dessert
    German Proverb: “Life is short, eat dessert first.”

    Eat it at Bruster’s on either the east or west sides of B-ton